Are You Insecure With Yourself And In Your Relationships?

We are all insecure at some level in one thing or another. Some women are more, some are less insecure. Then there are those women that are just very insecure.

The women that are very insecure are generally quite arrogant. You know, the type of woman that looks like she is so successful and needs to prove that to everyone?

Woman that are secure in themselves don’t have anything to prove to anyone, they don’t have to speak loud, step on anyone, or have their cleavage down to their belly button.

Men go crazy when they meet a woman that is secure in herself. Why?

Besides the fact that she is different then most women, with women that are secure, men have to work it. And men love this. They love to know that to have this woman, they have to be good men. They have to be a good man for real.

Women that are secure also make it very clear that they are not afraid of losing them and their men are attracted by this.

How does this work? It’s exactly that. Even if they are so in love, the secure woman is not afraid to lose her man and this is why they usually don’t lose him. They don’t control or complain when he doesn’t call or desperately be calling him. They don’t use sex as a weapon and they don’t do drama.

These women keep to themselves, they are not aggressive and they would never declare: “Be careful because I am a secure woman”. If one comes out and says those words to that effect, it’s like really showing that you are in fact insecure.

Women that are secure know who they are, what they want and how they want it.

Men can sense this by the way they talk, walk, dress and act. Men understand that these women possess something different, even if they don’t quite know what it is. But they are fascinated. They are not anxious with anything. They don’t have their happiness tied to a man or depend on them to be by their side to feel better.

Having a man is only good when he is really good.

The secure woman knows that what is good for other women may not be good for her! Above all…a secure woman has attitude.

They respect themselves a lot.

They don’t do stupid things like many women do when they are desperate. They don’t go asking their man if he really does like her, if he really wants to be with her, or if he will show up tomorrow. They don’t go asking if he likes it this way or that way or be calling him all the time to control his life or be changing her clothes ten times to please him.

Above all, a woman that is secure tells her own truths. She knows herself and naturally says and shows what she wants. If she wants kids, she says so. Not in the first encounter with a man. The first date she wants to hear and know if the prince is a frog or if the frog is a prince. She’s not afraid to displease a man with her truths because she knows it is all fundamental to her happiness.

She is not going to hide the fact that she wants kids for fear of finding a man and then losing him once he knows she wants kids. If a man doesn’t want kids, he has his own reasons and there is no use in insisting. The secure woman will find someone else that has the same objectives as hers.

She knows that there are other men that exist in the world and therefore she doesn’t get desperate with fear of losing him or not pleasing him. She knows that there are more fish in the sea and that time moves rather quickly.

We can’t waste time loving the wrong man. Doing so means depleting our soul, which could destroy our joy for living and our capability to be happy.

A secure woman doesn’t waste her precious time. Don’t play with the wrong man – or with the right man. The cost is high.

I’m sure many woman that are with me at this moment know what I’m talking about. Then why is it that we can’t see it that this man, this love life is going to make us suffer? Why?

Because we don’t pay attention. We don’t want to see, or worse, admit. This is the reason. All the signs are there-clearly.

We have eyes and we don’t see, we have ears and we don’t listen.

We need to be attentive and conscious, exchange fear for certainty, so that we could understand the risks we take by making the wrong choice.

A secure woman knows all this. She is only in fear of losing one thing: herself.

She takes herself very seriously.

If a man is not making her happy, she moves on to another prospect instead of ruminating the relationship and wasting her energies to control, change, or understand…

SHE DOESN’T HAVE TIME TO WASTE.

How about you? Do you like to suffer? Torture yourself? To look back and see that you wasted days, months, years on something not worthwhile? That everything that you received in return were deep wrinkles and never-ending sorrow? Please stop. This is an insecure woman.

The impression that I get is that an insecure woman attracts the worse men, the men that will reinforce your insecurities and make you feel even worse.

A woman that is secure in herself does not mean that all men will be at your feet, or that she is like some queen.

A woman that is secure is secure because she values herself. She is not the prettiest, the richest, more intelligent..etc. She is secure in herself, what she wants, and doesn’t want, what she likes and doesn’t like.

She pleases men naturally, without having to try hard.

More so, if he pleases her also, she confirms that she is with the right person; if he doesn’t please her, she understands that he is not the right person for her. She doesn’t waste time trying to get a man that doesn’t want her. If he doesn’t want her, oh well……next!

Your thoughts?